Guespost: Dee Tenorio on the Many Shades of Love + Giveaway: SHAKEN

October 25, 2010

Guespost: Dee Tenorio on the Many Shades of Love + Giveaway: SHAKEN

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Today I'm happy to welcome Dee Tenorio to my humble little World of Romance. Make sure to answer her question at the end of the post for a chance to win a copy SHAKEN, her awesome and heartbreaking novella, that came out October 19th! My review of SHAKEN can be found HERE

Many Shades of Love

I've had a lot of time to think about love over the years of my writing. Love is supposed to be my topic of expertise, but you know, it's not as simple as studying a topic and knowing all the right answers. At any point of my life, I thought I knew what love was. Thought I understood it, only to discover that what I knew wasn't complete. Love changes.

When you're young and have yet to truly learn the value of anything, love is so easy to feel and understand. You love mommy and daddy and brother and sister and puppy and kitty and teacher and friends... The list is unending because if it makes you happy, it's love. And that isn't wrong.

Get a little older and love gets a little more complicated. There's different kinds now. Some like roots that are just a part of you. Some that are new and exciting. You find out that what you love, you might not always get. Love isn't always fair. Sometimes, even if you do get it, it's not going to stay. Love can hurt and those first, wrenching slices of loss can cut deep. While memorable, you also discover that you can recover. Learn from it. And that's not wrong either.

When you're grown, love can be consuming. Blinding. Destructive. It can be exhilirating and fulfilling. It can give you a connection and ground you when your life is upside down or up in the clouds. You've learned what it is to love deeply and give a part of yourself away, fully accepting that the part you give isn't coming back. But new parts come along to take it's place. Love from others—the ones you choose and the ones who choose you. And sometimes, the hardest lessons are how to recover when the pieces of our hearts are taken away.

I always thought of love as a feeling. An emotion or a connection only. But it continually surprises me. Love is all those things, but it's also a comfort. A choice. A gift. A joy. Love is what's left when we're gone. What gives us a reason to keep going when we're here.

I know that in my field, I'm supposed to have answers or insight, but the truth is...I'm still learning. I'm still figuring out the ways that love grows and changes. I'm still trying to understand how it scars and heals, how it makes a better person out of me.

So take a moment to help me learn. Tell me how love has made your life better and I'll enter you into a drawing to win a free copy of my latest novella, "Shaken".

Hope to hear from you,
Dee

Bio:
Dee Tenorio has a few reality issues. After much therapy for the problem—if one can call being awakened in the night by visions of hot able-bodied men a problem—she has proved incurable. It turns out she enjoys tormenting herself by writing sizzling, steamy romances of various genres spanning paranormal mystery dramas, contemporaries and romantic comedies. Preferably starring the sexy, somewhat grumpy heroes described above and smart-mouthed heroines who have much better hair than she does.

The best part is, no more therapy bills!
Well, not for Dee, anyway. Her husband and kids, on the other hand...

If you would like to learn more about Dee and her work, please visit her website at http://www.deetenorio.com or her blog at http://www.deetenorio.com/Blog/.

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2 comments:

Leontine said...: Ever since I read the post and your question I've been pondering on it. It's not exactly the easiest questions to answer :)) How did love make my life better?

Well, when I think of love, I think of people. For instance, the steady, relentless love of my parents; they are a safety net and yet challenge me at the same time. My siblings (younger sister and brother) one of the best things in life for me is the love I share with my sister and brother. They have been with me for over 30 years, know my strengths and weaknesses, my joy and pain, we argue and we make up and we truly feel like the three musketeers; one for all and all for one. But the love that surprised me the most is the love I share with my husband. When I think I have him pegged out he does something completely opposite, and while it is definitely not picture perfect we still make time for time romance, we are there for each other when the things go rough and we can still share a quiet meal and be content or LOL while doing a mundane thing such as the dishes.

I think it is the people who love me, and I them, that make me all the more stronger, compassionate and a better person all together. They bring out the best in me and tell me when I’m at my worst and still forgive me. It is the people who love me that make my life better.

This is such a drama queen answer *sigh* But I had to give it a go...:D; Oct 27, 2010, 1:27:00 PM
krazymama_98 said...: Hmmmm, love made my life better? Just this week, my husband of 30 years unloaded the dishwasher for no reason other than to surprise me. It was a very sweet and unexpected thing for him to do. So appreciated. The bad thing was that it had not been run yet. :-) I never run it unless it is truly full and so I was waiting for his coffee pot in the morning to fill it up before running. But the effort was just another example of how love makes my life better. :-); Nov 3, 2010, 4:30:00 PM